Walking through the heart break.

It is actually okay right now I was so vocal about my last boyfriend. I couldn't believe the fairytale that brought him to me. I was sure he was my perfect match. We looked similar, had the same design taste and mutual friends. I had done all of this work in my personal life prior to meeting him and was finally in a place where I was happy as single woman. He came in and swept me off of my feet. I was smitten. happy and secure and then it was over.

I sobbed uncontrollably as he broke up with me (sorry to the man who had to experience that...) and even had moments of dark depression that I hadn't experienced in years in the following weeks. There were times that I didn't think the the actual ache of my heart would go away. But, I had put into place all of these really good habits prior to meeting him that allowed me to have a fairly quick turnaround and get back to my normal, happy, full life and open myself up again to someone new.

You can read my tips over on Verily today!

Latest on Verily: What I learned when I turned to dating classes instead of dating apps

what-i-learned You guys. I decided last year when I signed up for my first dating class that I wouldn't be ashamed of it. It took some humility to admit to myself that I actually may just not have known how to date. I wrote about being a 20-something recovering alcoholic, which led to me taking a year off of dating altogether. Then I wrote about how I was able to change my view of what it meant to be single and all the wonderful things that I implemented into my life during that time.

But then I told my therapist that I just didn't have a clue as to how to date anymore. So she sent me to find some classes on relationships and dating and I learned so, so much.

You can read the new article up on Verily today: What I learned when I turned to Dating Classes instead of Dating Apps

Not to mention the fact that the part at the end of the article that seems a bit hypothetical, actually happened back in November. Some new friends asked about my dating life. I told them about my classes and what I was learning. And one turned to me exclaiming that she had the perfect match and that was that.

In other news - we released a new print today with a quote by Saint Gemma: "“I shall love you, I shall love you always. When day breaks, when evening turns into night, at every hour, at every moment; I shall love you always, always, always." You can check it out in the shop.

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Letting go and Letting God - my journey as a single woman shared on Verily

226476_1026851384393_2809_n Last month I realized that my five year old self was still inside of me throwing tantrums about being single at age 27. 5 year old Erica only dreamed of a  handsome husband and a crew of children. She expected to be married by now and is not pleased that it's not all going according to plan. I had this huge epiphany about how that little girl's dream had not allowed me to find happiness in my current life - nothing was successful because I am unable to have a healthy, long lasting relationship with a man.

I got to have some sweet conversations with that little girl (am I the only one who does weird things like that??) and tell her that it's actually totally fine to still be single and that I've discovered in the 20 years since the age of five that life has so many beautiful experiences beyond relationships with men. We came to an agreement that we would approach love differently, we would loosen the reins on trying to find it.

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This in turn led me to contemplating the acting of letting go and in turn, letting God. No more tantrums about dates not going well, no more tantrums that life is not giving me what I want. Today, I got to write about it for Verily -  7 PRINCIPLES THAT HELPED ME GET OVER THINKING OF SINGLEHOOD AS FAILURE.

And as an added bonus, I present you with the powerpoint that I made at age 11 about my future life to show you really how much I love/loved to plan. (This was not an assignment for school - just done in my own personal time) Not one thing actually happened in that powerpoint - I went to a different school, have lived in many states, but never Colorado, studied a different major, haven't found that man to wear that tux and do not have any children. And that wedding I planned was atrocious. And the stock photos of babies.... oh my.

Grab the Let Go, Let God print in my shop as a digital download! I would love to hear your stories of enjoying single life, finding your partner, accepting life on life's terms and more!

xx, Erica